WHY NORMAL IS TRASH PSYCHOLOGY + THE STICK Back to normal. Have you heard that phrase lately? Yep. It seems to be one of the few things that Americans can agree upon these days. A desire to go back to normal. Really? Normal? Well, let me set fire to that unifying idea. Why? Because normal is actually horse shit. For one, there is little usefulness in returning to something that no longer exists, yet this idea of holding on to what we thought of as normal with a cold dead hand, feels necessary for so many. Specifically those who are adverse to change and are unwilling to look within. To do the work. So what gives? Well, it remains true...
So I have a ton of thoughts on this. Most of which go strongly against every single super pretty Instagram motivational poster targeted toward women that I've ever seen. Is that specific enough for you? We are sold some bullshit on comparison, especially women and especially artists. Comparison, even social comparison, its modern day evil twin is actually a good thing and if you can harvest it, comparison is a super power. Here’s why. The first thing to understand about comparison is that there is ZERO chance that your brain will not engage in it in some way. That’s right, zero chance. In fact, studies show that as much as 10% of our thoughts at any given time center around comparisons...
This week I host for a THESE THREE THINGS discussion, San Francisco based stylist, art director, founder of The Astute Agency and Casa Ojo, JILLIAN KNOX! We talk love for the hustle, knowing your worth, and saying YES. We also share the best advice our dads ever gave us. Takeaway is, our dads live a dope life and do dope shit. Join us while we mostly laugh, talk Gucci and share tips for world domination in the creative profession. It's a good one! Listen here.
Embrace the hustle.
"Know your worth, baby girl."
Say yes.
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WHY WE ALL HAVE B.O. PSYCHOLOGY + THE STENCH I happen to know a thing or two about body odor. Just ask any of my former roommates, boyfriends or travel buddies. I’m human and human beings get B.O. We also all fart too, for any of you flatulence deniers out there. If you don't think you have ever had B.O., ask your partner, roommate, or a good friend you’ve been camping with. If they all say no, get some new people. When I was in my late teens and early 20’s I befriended a feel good group of creative people who made me laugh. And what we loved most, was to laugh and have fun together. Sometimes this looked like...
The best advice I ever received about worry, wasn’t from a psychotherapist, it wasn’t even during my study of psychology or working in my private practice. It was the moment my daughter was born. My doctor placed her on my chest, looked me and my partner right in the eyes and said, “Mom, it’s your job to worry. Dad, it’s your job to deal with it.” Big moment all around and I’m surprised alongside the drama of childbirth I remember that advice so clearly. Perhaps it’s because I grew up being consumed by worry, mostly because no one had ever given me permission to have it. Worry, especially for kids is often met with, “don’t worry, everything will be okay.”...
