I’ve been doing a bit of spring cleaning around the house and finding all sorts of interesting surprises. This afternoon I found my old iPod shuffle. I charged it and listened. There were about 4 or 5 songs interspersed between hours of studying materials and review for my licensing exams. That would make the last time I listened to it about 2006. That might as well be a lifetime ago. I was very different. There were many things I would learn that year and the years to come. I thought a lot today about what I would tell that version of myself about what was coming. Here are three things I would tell her.

1. Understand the difference between intellectual stimulation and happiness. They are two distinctly different stages that can happen together, but understand how they feel apart.

2. Grief will be your greatest teacher. This knowledge will do nothing to help you process grief. But know that there is grief and love and you cannot know one without the other. I’m pretty sure they are what life is all about.

3. That tightness that you feel, the restlessness, the searching, yearning, feeling of not knowing what can’t be satisfied will all disappear in a moment in October of 2010. Trust me. It’s going to be okay.

What did you learn today? Join me by using the #thesethreethings and commenting below with your own These Three Things. I want to hear what you are learning, laughing about, and living through."