Well 2017, you were really something. I learned a lot, things I wanted to, others I had no intention of ever learning, but there you go. You were quite a roller coaster, which truth be told, is sort of my thing. I love the highs and lows and that moment at the very top right before the plunge, when you can see it all before you. There is the chance to scream or laugh, or both. I like both. So here we go.
1. Run towards, not away. To even in our moments of retreat not run away from, but instead be running towards something else. To have the capacity in those moments where we would rather run away, but instead examine, go deep, be in the darkness, taste it, love it, hate it, see ourselves in it, meet each other there and be less afraid knowing it's all really towards something anyway.
2. A win is still a win. Even when it's not by a landslide and instead by the skin of our teeth, in inches instead of yards, in extra innings, in overtime, or by default. Even if it all goes down much differently than we had imagined and even if we are exhausted, and bloody, and crying, and it feels so much like losing, and we wonder why we are still in this fight, a win is still a win. And you can't win if you don't play. And every day is a chance to play again.
3. Make it fun. So much was thrown at us this year. Both individually and collectively, and while we can't control what comes at us, we can control how we respond. And fuck if I'm not going to make it fun. My daughter asked me the other night why I married her dad. I looked at her and said, "He made me laugh." It was not the answer she was expecting, nor I really, but it's true. He made me laugh, makes me laugh, we find the same things funny, and this has made all the difference. He said to me yesterday, "There is no one I would rather go through a hard time with than you." Me too babe, me too. So today in the spirit of fun, we started a new family tradition, the New Year's Eve Pinata. Beat out the old and burst open the new. And damn if the 5 of us didn't beat the living shit out of that thing. And yes, it was fun. Happy New Year!
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