Put it in writing.

I've been thinking back to one of the first JOY IS NOW episodes, with the brilliant Katie Steward from Shion Studio in New York. During our conversation she mentioned attending a workshop where she was asked to write down her fears on paper. Writing her fears and seeing the letters on the page really made a difference for her. Like pulling at the emotional and making it concrete, right there in front of her.

During this time of massive upheaval and all the feelings, I've been making an effort to concretize emotional content. Not just for the kiddo, but for all of us. It is a very basic move, but one that with our big, fat, complex brains, we often forget to do. In short, when the shit hits the emotional fan, it's essential to go back to basics.

Enter the emotional tool box. We actually made one. Out of a real metal toolbox that we shopped for specifically for this purpose. Because, a tool box, is for tools. Each day, or when he mood strikes we write down an emotional tool and put it in the box. My favorite, of which I am historically forgetful is, RESPOND instead of REACT. Big difference between the two. And when I get overwhelmed, I plow right past this simple reminder and REACT. Ouch. Not that having a tool box solves all the problems, it doesn't. Not even close, but it makes a small improvement. And small is really big right now.

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